How to experience peace of….
We all have thoughts. In fact, it’s an integral part of being human. Thoughts can range from positive and uplifting to negative and distressing. But what do your thoughts say about you as a person? Are they an accurate reflection of your character? Let’s delve into this topic and explore how our thoughts relate to our identity.
I was convinced that I needed to ONLY have positive thoughts and if it deviated then there was something wrong deep inside me. This created a negative feedback loop that placed more emphasis on those negative thoughts which then dictated how I felt and experienced my life. What I have learnt has changed my life forever!
1. You Are Not Your Thoughts
Your thoughts are like passing clouds in the sky. They come and go, and not all of them are a true reflection of your character. Sometimes, we have negative or distressing thoughts that may not align with our values or beliefs. It’s crucial to understand that thoughts are not concrete representations of your identity; they are transient mental events.
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It’s perfectly normal to have a wide range of thoughts. Our minds are constantly processing information and generating ideas, which may include negative or self-critical thoughts. The key is to acknowledge these thoughts without judgment. Recognize that they are not who you are, and you have the power to choose which thoughts you act upon.
2. Let Go Of Trying To Managing Your Thoughts:
It’s important to not become overly fixated on any single thought, especially those that bring you distress. Instead, learn to become aware and simply observe. If you find yourself in a low mood, understand that you were having some insecure thoughts. Simply bring awareness to those thoughts and acknowledge that it’s possible to have a new thought.
When you find yourself caught in a cycle of negative thinking, try taking a few breaths and remind yourself that this is temporary even if it seems unending. These practices can help you observe your thoughts without attachment, allowing you to let go of unhelpful or harmful ideas.
3. There Is Nothing Wrong With You!
It’s perfectly normal to experience negative or unpleasant thoughts at times. These thoughts are part of the human experience and do not define your character or worth.
Negative thoughts may arise as a response to stress, past experiences, or other factors. It’s essential to remind yourself that everyone encounters such thoughts occasionally. What sets us apart is how we choose to respond to them.
4. You Are Not Alone:
If negative thoughts are overwhelming and affecting your mental health, it’s crucial to reach out for support. Talking to a therapist or coach can provide valuable tools and strategies to manage these thoughts but also finding a community that will let you vent, explore your thoughts and encourage you to pursue a deeper experience. By sharing with others and hearing about their experience you will remind yourself that you are not alone in having negative thoughts and feelings.
5. Show Yourself The Amount Of Grace You So Easily Give To Others
Ultimately, remember to be kind to yourself. Cultivate self-compassion and strive to speak to yourself with understanding and empathy. Your thoughts do not define you, and when you learn more about how we experience life from the inside out, you will realize that it’s not about forcing positive thoughts, but rather spending more time with the thoughts that lead to a good feeling. You are also allowed to not take yourself so seriously and let go of any negative thoughts.
Practicing self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness and care you would offer to a friend. This can help you better navigate difficult thoughts and challenges, ultimately contributing to a healthier self-image and mental well-being.
Your thoughts are an integral part of your mental landscape, but they are not an absolute reflection of your character or identity. Embrace the normalcy of having both positive and negative thoughts. Remember that they are JUST THOUGHTS and you have the power to choose how to respond to them. Seeking help when needed and cultivating self-compassion are powerful tools to better understand your thoughts and nurturing your mental health.
Coach Scotto